Every day, we go through life with some form of stress and challenges and no matter how patient we are, we still will lose it.
Life, like the road we travel, has bumps, humps, traffic lights, blockages, potholes… okay okay,,, we do have smooth rides… Or your kids or adults around us just drives us nuts!
How do you react towards those challenges? Do you get impatient, or just drive through those challenges ?
Whatever, you feel is just part of us. Most importantly, at the end of it all, we can laugh at our own silliness for those negative emotions as we are not able to change the situation that is beyond our control.
At least we are still alive to enjoy these life adventures… Be abundantly blessed and feel blessed.
So, remember to enjoy an ice cream and relax. Let your inner child out… LAUGH, BE SILLY, FEEL SILLY…….
I was feeling under the weather the past few days and to get myself out of the house for a movie helped. I decided to write this to share my thoughts.
Overall, The Kid from The Big Apple 2 got my attention to many issues about family, communication, forgiveness, judgement, childlike playfulness, love, sacrifice, change and the disease called Dementia. You could hear sniffles here and there as certain parts of the movie do make the audience cry.
This Malaysian made movie has so many elements and values that are slowly missing in families and relationships. This time Director Jess Teong delivers about dementia and old age where we see dignity in it. I see how grandpa is portrayed to understand his deteriorating memory and he was afraid of causing hurt to his family whilst fear that he would forget his family. A dilemma I believe most old people will experience.
What is beautiful about this story, that his daughter Sophia and granddaughter Sarah adores Grandpa and their love overcame every obstacles they have.
Sarah and Bao truly show the innocence of children and their positive mindset which we can all use and learn from. As adults, most of us including me see problems as problems rather than something which we can find solution or alternative to overcome.
Neighbours he had when he was living in the flat were truly family. With their unique behaviours and attitude, they held on to love and friendship and that kept him going for so many years living alone. I love the fact I used to experience such love and friendship from the neighbours, overlooking their inquisitive and ‘kaypo’ (nosy) behaviour.
Sophia’s past with her husband and at first it was all the bad, irresponsible man played by Shaun Tan. He played his role well and when he told the reasons he left so that Sophia can graduate (he sacrificed his studies so that financially, he can support her) and how much he regretted not being there to see Sophia succeed, receive their daughter together, change nappies, etc). Whatever the excuse, we do make decisions based on what was right at that time. Here, the communication between 2 persons is reconciled and mended broken fences which is important.
I love Ah Bao (Jason Tan) fun loving, silly but innocent child character. He really brings everyone together . I can say he is the highlight and the hero in the movie. He teaches us trust, integrity, creativity, how to have fun, how to love, etc.. all the values we have to be.
Ti Lung, the actor who played Grandpa was my hero when he was the Kung Fu (martial arts) movies. Seeing him at this age was totally a surprise. He suddenly changed from a kungfu fighting actor to become a frail old man.
I understand that part where he and Ah Meng went to an old folks home to see if he can live there so that he does not burden his daughter. He changed his mind after seeing the condition there and what Ah Meng shared where he (Ah Meng) did not have a chance to spend more time with his mother because he put her in a home. He regretted it.
Grandpa also talked about how he wished he could travel the whole of Malaysia and spend more time with his daughter and Sarah. The biggest fear is that he would forget them both.
My own father wish was to visit his hometown and we made that wish happen 2 years ago, but sadly he cannot recognise even his own school. I am glad we took that trip though.
This movie touched the core of my being because I am living with my nearly 90 year old father going through his 2nd childhood. I admit that I struggle accepting my formerly strong, easy going father to a grumpy, stubborn, lazy old man who at times forget what he does or what he has eaten, he is living in his own time zone; totally not the man I used to know. He has his moments but it is still alright. I just thank God he can recognise us at home. Whilst watching the movie, my father flashed through my head and I cried knowing that I have so much I still have to do; to accept my father as he is now and to love him as he is. I love him and it is my duty to care for him; no home can care for him and my mother like our own. I am blessed he is still physically alright.
In real life, my father is not like Grandpa, with such good behaviour as he can be quite a handful, like a child who refused to do things when called to, but he has his good times. Thank God he knows who we are and is still able to argue with us.
Congratulations Jess Teong for one of the best family drama alive. You truly bring back and remind us the values which we a losing in our current society. Bring more to our screen such valuable lessons we need.
Whilst my father is breathing, I will do my best to love him and spend that time with him until he goes home to his Maker. TKFTBA 2 – Before we Forget is a reminder to me of my situation and how I should ‘handle’ it.
Live another day, live it well. Make it count each day knowing we lived. – Catherine Lim
We were spending quality time over toast and coffee catching up. It was such a great breakfast that we just let time pass us by. Mad and I are really kindred spirit as we share dreams and aspirations to make a difference in the world. To have this moment was truly something I treasure very much, like a child all excited about the moment.
People were walking about and some passing by our table. Then suddenly a lady stood at our table obviously trying to express herself. We were stunned as she stood there for a few seconds before taking the courage to ask me about my caliper.
She asked, “Is it alright if I ask you about your leg. What is it called?”
I replied, “Sure you can. It is called a caliper”
She then said, “My son wears a plastic cast like and it is giving him blisters. He walks slowly and needs assistance. I was wondering where you made your caliper.”
I told her, “It is made in XXXXXXXx. Where did you go?” She showed me the contact and it was the same place.
She asked me permission to see my caliper and I showed her how I put a towel to protect my thigh from blisters.
We invited her to sit with us and chit chat with her. Her son is in university aspiring to be a doctor ,and his physically challenge because of spina bifida. She said that he is very strong willed and very intelligent. She became emotional. She felt she was not good enough a mother.
I felt really proud of her and told her, “Kak, you are an inspiration to all mothers because you are a motivator and the pillar of strength to your son. You should be proud of yourself to have a son like him because he is a gift to the world. You have brought him up well. He was given to you by Allah for a reason only HE knows. Your son definitely is the greatest inspiration and motivation to those around him. Be proud of yourself Kak, be proud.”
She cried as we held hands and chatted about her wonderful son and I shared stories of how some adults who hid themselves from the world because of their shame of their handicap.
Kak Mumtaz, travels down from Kedah to KL every week to spend time with her son and help him with errands despite him telling her not to trouble herself. She said it was important for her to spend that quality time with him and encourage him because he has difficulty but he never complains. She told me that it was not easy for a disabled child to enter the university to study medicine. Her son aspires to be a doctor and I told her that he will be a great doctor because of his passion. She said it would be very difficult for him to practice here. Mad and I told her, that nothing is impossible eventhough difficult. She ought to place her faith in Allah and let Him plan her son’s life mission.
My life journey is centered in trusting my Creator and have fallen so many times I almost gave up. The calling within is the one that always pushes me to move forward and place myself in His hands. Today, I can proudly say that He plans everything in HIS Time and not mine. He has sent many angels into my life and to reach my potential.
What a fruitful and beautiful day it has been for me. My future is certainly beautiful with my imperfections because through my physical handicap, I am a motivator and an inspiration. It brings joy within me that even money cannot buy. I am grateful and I am abundantly blessed!
You bet it is one that is a gift since the day we were created. It is a quality all of us used to have as a child but it becomes buried when we were conditioned and taught by our environment;
“don’t laugh so loud, it is shameful”
“you are crazy to laugh for no reason”
“you cannot laugh for no reason, only sick people do”
And the list goes on.
Look at babies, children. Why do they laugh? Do they have a reason ? Are they shameful? NO! THEY ARE JUST HAPPY! Children in fact smile as many as 400 times per day.
It is written that “Laughter is your birthright, a natural part of life that is innate and inborn. Infants begin smiling during the first weeks of life and laugh out loud within months of being born. Even if you did not grow up in a household where laughter was a common sound, you can learn to laugh at any stage of life.
You can decide to laugh for no reason as laughter makes you feel good; the good feeling remains with you even after the laughter subsides. It helps you keep a positive and optimistic outlook in difficult situations, sadness and pain. It gives you courage and strength to find resources to your solutions.
Laughter is contagious. The best part is the brain cannot differentiate between real and fake laughter. It gives our body the same health benefits. It has been scientifically established that laughter has amazing impact on our body and mind. It helps to prevent onset of sickness by strengthening our immune system and also has a healing effect. A daily dose of laughter is one answer to de-stress and uplift your joy.
Extract from the Laugther Yoga “ Several studies are underway in many universities around the world. Clinical research conducted at Bangalore, India and in the United States has proved that Laughter lowers the level of stress hormones (epinephrine, cortisol, etc) in the blood. “
There’s so much to share about laughter so the next time someone says you are crazy when you burst out laughing by yourself, just tell them, “It is my best medicine.”
Fake it till you make it. Fake laughter until it becomes real for you.
(I am now a Certified Laughter Yoga leader. It has been a fantastic experience and my childlike playfulness is the me even as an adult).